Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

A great informative book with a Christian mindset. It is a good read pre-marriage and post-marriage, so no matter what season of marriage you are in, it is beneficial. It gives you tips, recommendations, and ideas. It is an easy read and one that both genders can read and highly benefit from.

Read this ahead of getting married. Lots of good thoughts and info! The QandA in the back is also interesting and worth your time.

This book was the best I have ever read regarding sex in marriage. I recommend it for anyone who is engaged or thinking about being engaged if you want to have a great sex life. If you're nervous about sex, or worried about what married sex will be like, you and your partner need to read this together before you say "I do." (I'm putting all the Google search words I used when I was in this position). Finding the Love of Your Life by Neil Clark Warren is good for picking if you found someone with the right character. This one is about talking about great sex. Both are necessary before you get engaged or right after. I would especially recommend reading this if you are with someone who is against premarital sex -- just make sure they agree to everything in this book about married sex. I have been bothered by people and churches who are against premarital sex, but provide no other guidance to men. They never say tell these poor single guys in their twenties who have a hard time attracting women that porn and fantasy masturbation, instead of sex, are actually worse (see Sex, Men, and God by Doug Weiss). They never say anything about the need for a man to be sexually aggressive, take the initiative, or not be "nice" (see the GREAT book No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover). It's for these reasons that I think many men who delay sex until after marriage have a lot of problems, as studies by Sandfort and Hyde / DeLamater have shown. These same churches and authors promote the myth that by avoiding premarital sex, one will have great sex in marriage. That's why I like Sheet Music: because it points out that there is more that you need to do to ensure great sex in marriage, while providing great reasons to avoid premarital sex. These reasons include why invest the time getting to know how to pleasure her if she might leave you. It also notes that by not having it, you talk more about it, which is essential if you want to have great sex throughout your marriage. It also made the point, one that even some pro-sex publications like Mens Health echoes, that pre-marital sex rarely predicts the quality of the sex in the marriage. I liked this book especially because it looks at the man's side a lot better than most books. Churches tell everyone about not having premarital sex. Then they also acknowledge that men want sex more than women. So what's a poor guy to do? Sheet Music talks directly to that issue many times in his book, like that when you commit to marriage, you commit to sex 2-3x a week for the rest of your life. He also points out that women who have been abused run to marriage to AVOID sex -- something to watch out for if you are thinking of becoming engaged to someone who claims to be against premarital sex. Another thing I liked about this book is the importance of the bride's beauty. Many, many authors say looks don't matter. However, LeMan makes the point that your wife wants to be told she's beautiful, a lot. So if you don't feel that way, don't get engaged. I had also looked at Getting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start by Joyce and Cliff Penner. I liked Sheet Music better.

Along with a starter book that I mistakenly thought would be about how to get her to change me... "Have A New Husband By Friday", this totally rocked our marriage. First I brought home four possible books to enhance our couples devotions, the "...husband by Friday" was her first choice to begin with. LOL When she was reading that daily, I though I had a new wife by Friday. I was totally flabbergasted. It was like some sort of 7 day challenge had been placed in front of her. It kind of faded after that for several months because of insecurities in our lives like unemployment, lack of motivation, and health issues. Then she told me that she really liked the way Kevin Lehman was honest, used great humor, and that it was new material in many ways for her. I watched for Kevin's marriage seminar and added that to these two books and then a month long once-a-week class at the Plymouth Covenant Church (Plymouth, Minnesota) by a teacher named Ruth B. and I have to say that we shall never be the same again. Healing, proper thinking about a sensitive subject, homework that was safe and fulfilling to both of us, along with helpful insights to discuss together... something has radically changed and our marriage has never been better, even though we have had our fights once in awhile since. ;-) This is my plan people. This is a prescription to renew an old and stale marriage where we were wondering if we were ever going to be interested in each other again, to now, an interesting, loving, honor and respect filled marriage where it feels like we are dating again in marriage. Thank you Kevin and Ruth. Thank you heavenly Father.

I loved this book and read it in such a short amount of time. It was so hilarious and very well written. I will say that if you are a woman who tends to have a larger sexual appetite, then it can seem that the author is not really talking to you. Either way, I really enjoyed this book and I even gave it to a friend who I thought could use it more than I.

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An excellent read from an obviously experienced professional

I get married on the 6th of July 2013; some of you will be reading this before then, others after. Sheet Music is a fantastic book, with 9 days to go until I get married, this has refocused me on what true God honouring sex is and how my attitude towards my bride to be should be now, on the night of our wedding and there after. We need to have sacrificial love in our hearts that flows from us so that we put our spouse first and ourselves last, only then will be truly happy and living in God's best for our lives and the lives of those around us. This works in all areas of life, but also in the bedroom. We need to love them, honour them, treat them and put our all into helping them enjoy each and every sexual encounter we have, then they will reciprocate that to us and both we will be fulfilled in our sex lives, but more importantly in our lives as a whole. This is a great book, I read it in 24 hours and just couldn't put it down! Give it a read! For your information: I asked top leaders from some of the best Churches across Europe and North America for their opinion on what is the top marriage book. After going through their answers the top ones mentioned time and time again are: 1, Love & Respect by Emerson Eggerichs 2, Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman 3, The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman 4, His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley 5, Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? by Gary L. Thomas 6, Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage by Kevin Leman (with this one I have been advised to only read it a couple of weeks before I get married!)

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