The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship: A Toltec W...

This book has a lot of good information in it, and while I think it's information that we all know deep down, sometimes you need someone to plainly say it (or write it) to remind you. At least that is how it was in my case. When I read it the first time I remember loving it, it was brilliant and while I didn't feel like I agreed with everything in it, a lot of what was taught in it shaped some of my views on love. At the time, I hadn't had much experience in relationships, in fact I think it was pretty recent after the end of my very first relationship. However, a lot of what was in this book really stuck with me, so just before Yule this year I took the time to run to the store and pick up two copies of it. One for my boyfriend (as a gift) and one for myself to read again. Really, I'm glad that I did. Reading it this time, I feel like I agreed with a lot more of what he said, and that I soaked more of it in. It didn't do much to change how I feel about relationships or love, because they were pretty similar to begin with. It did reaffirm them for me though, and put into words a lot of how I felt. Enough that when I finished reading it I had the urge to pass it along, so that a certain friend of mine could take the time and read it, in hopes that it would reaffirm things for him. Especially the most important things that deal with self love, self destruction, the "Parasite" inside of us all, and how the way others act should not affect us and vice versa. It really opened my eyes, and I feel like sharing the knowledge I feel I've gained from it. I'll probably buy it again in a few months. This book really speaks towards the way society can implant negative thoughts on us, and how we can be raised to believe them. We are all born innocent and full of love, and somewhere along the way we learn how to be distrustful, and how to be hurt, and to be hurtful in return. Our parents learned this while they grew, and they (along with the rest of society) then teach it to us as we grow up, and the cycle continues ever onward. Personally, I would hope that I have the strength to stop that cycle, and leave my children full of love and respect. Another thing it tells us, is the story of "The Man Who Didn't Believe in Love", which is now one of my favorite legends. It tells of a man who went around giving lectures on the non-existence of love, because so many people use it to manipulate each other. He says "love is like a drug" because in each relationship you have the "dealer" of the "drug" and the person who is addicted and keeps coming back for more. The stronger partner deals out the love, and the weaker tries to soak up as much of it as they can, and they take any abuse the dealer gives out too, because they think they need it so badly and that they can't get it anywhere else. He vows that he does not believe in love, because he has had many such experiences and refuses to let anyone manipulate him with this false emotion. So this man is walking through the park one day and he comes across a woman who is sitting in the grass crying. He stops to console her, and asks her why she is crying, and she replies "I am crying because love does not exist." The man is astounded, because he has finally found a woman who feels the same way he does. He talks to her, they develop a friendship, and soon they are spending all their time together. They never fight, and they never expect anything from each other, they have the perfect bond. One day when the man is away, he is contemplating his relationship with the woman. He realizes that what he feels for her must actually be love, and that he had been wrong all along. Love does exist, and it is much more pure and beautiful than anything he'd ever experienced. The man is so excited that he rushes home immediately to tell her how he feels about her. She, in turn, replies that she has felt this way for quite some time and has been afraid to tell him because of his disbelief in the emotion. The legend then tells that the man is so happy, that he goes outside and sends his happiness into the universe. His happiness is so large that it pulls a star down into his hands and he hurries to give it to the woman. The happiness is so overwhelming, that for a moment the woman hesitates, and in that moment of doubt she drops it and it shatters. Now there is a man who is wandering the Universe, broken and lonely because he once again believes that love does not exist. There is also a woman who sits at home waiting for the man who once loved her, feeling remorse for that one moment of doubt that ruined their relationship. So in asking yourself who was in the wrong, was it the woman who doubted for a moment? No, it was the man who decided to place his entire happiness in someones hands. If we place all of our happiness in the control of others, how can we ever expect to be happy? It is entirely up to us to be happy, and if we choose to be happy with someone else, we're all the better. We cannot rely on them to make us happy. The book delves into quite a bit more information regarding loving yourself and being a whole person. It also emphasizes my previous belief that you have to be happy on your own, if you can ever be happy with anyone else. You have to love yourself to fully love another, and you have to be an equal part to a relationship, and not rely on them. It is the same with friends, family, and anyone you encounter. In any case, I highly recommend this book to anyone, even if you read it simply to remind yourself of what you knew before. He has at least 3 other books that go along with it, and I plan on reading them as well. Remember, God = Love and God is inside of you. So YOU = LOVE.

Love the book recommended from my couple therapist

Ruiz brings the Toltec world view up to the level of the Greatest Sacred Truths of all (any) culture and expresses in an engaging, experience -based, earthy prose that is all the more impactful for its conversational structure. Many of these ideas are similar to everything from Krishna, to Buddha, to Jesus to Yogananda with some Quantum Physics added in. But he narrows his Attention to the fuller implications of these ideas, taking them from the purely academic to the inspirational into actual experience and action. Entire volumes have been written on any number of the topics he covers so succinctly and pointedly that one comes to the last page with a reeling and challenged mind, but a full Heart.

Love to read this over and over again. Great read!

I’m a big fan of Don Miguel Ruiz and his books. But the Mastery of Love is by far my favorite in all of his series if the Toltec teachings. I first read the Mastery of Love over 10 years ago and it has been a baseline in how I approach any a d all relationships. Whether romantic, with family, friends, the dog or myself this book Portrays Realistic examples of deep understanding of what the meaning of love is. This book is simply written and yet deep at the same time. I keep it around just so every once in a while I can open up to page and read a couple as a little reminder when ever I get triggered or just an uplift in general. I highly recommend anybody who has relationship issues or wants to breed healthier relationships with others and yourself. Everything in this boom commonsense, how many people have forgotten the true way to love. If you are open to it, this is book will is certainly a keeper with little lessons that help remind us that we are love.

In alignment with the ideas and principles shown in Ruiz's The Four Agreements, the Mastery of Love approaches the basics of human relationships (romantic and non romantic) by going to the root of what love is, and how true happiness can be found and achieved. Don Miguel Ruiz uses many metaphorical stories and fables to make his points, and, despite the simplicity of the language, he is able to convey deep and meaningful concepts. Some of the lessons this book teaches are: - To have a successful relationship with anybody, no matter the type, you have to work mostly on yourself. - If you don't truly genuinely love yourself, nobody will. - If you don't respect yourself, nobody will. Actually, they'll abuse you. - If you don't accept your body as it is, you are disrespecting yourself, you become insecure and an easy pray to your own and everybody else's criticism. Physical beauty is just an ever-changing idea that means nothing. - See people for what they are, not for what they could be. - Accept people for what they are, not for what you want them to be. - If your partner doesn't have what you are looking for, look for another partner. - Don't try to change the other person. People don't change that much. - You can't find happiness unless you are already happy inside. - You can't find happiness if fear rules your life. - People vibrate at the same frequency levels and find/meet who they "are", not what they are looking for. - Don't let your believe system (partly family inherited) and programming (Social/cultural conditioning) rule your life. You want to dream your own dreams, not somebody else's. - Be true to who you are, and don't fake what you are not. The latter takes much more effort and makes your life more difficult and less fulfilled. - Forgiveness makes you happier, as cleans out the poison in your emotional body. - Accept that we are mind and body, and that our animal instincts are nothing to be ashamed of. - In a couple, the only half you can control is you. - Improvement is a a fight against your social programming, a 24/7 battle against yourself and your thoughts and emotional reactions. - We perceive the world with the eyes of our emotions. If they are dirty, we see a dirty world. If you see it rosy, rosy it is. The book is very philosophical, and helps to clear up our mind when we have doubts about a date, a person with whom we are starting a relationship, or a partner/relative with whom we are having communication or relation problems. The book is also repetitive, ruthless and pitiless. In a way, tells us to stop with the excuses we give ourselves, do something or shut up. This is not a book for the faint hearted. Don't read it thinking that you will find a magic potion to date the hot new guy/girl on the block or sort out your family relationships. Still, it is a book worth reading, because in its few pages provides us with many useful ideas to ponder about what human connection is and can be. Despite its title, the Mastery of Love lacks a bit of practicality regarding techniques to implement the advice given, except for some exceptions, and some final prayers, which aren't of much help if you aren't a believer. For ex. if you don't love yourself, how do learn to love yourself? f you are blind and you cannot see, how can do you open your eyes? If you have been abused since childhood, how do you learn to stop the abuse? If you are with somebody who has addictions, mental problems or anger issues, what do you do? Abandon him? Should you abandon any person with whom you don't have a fluffy initial relationship? That sort of questions. Although some of the things Ruiz mentions can be easily accepted, at least at an intellectual and spiritual level, the lack of practical techniques and exercises makes difficult for the reader to go from the intellectual/spiritual acceptance of the ideas and principles mentioned in the book, to a place where things flow naturally from the heart and you experience those feelings yourself.

Don Miguel Ruiz has managed to capture roughly 8 hours of time that you will never regret giving away. This book allows a connection with the audience that is one of the most personal I have ever experienced. This isn't a book for the hopeless romantic, this is a book to stop the trains crashing in your head and remeber why love is perfect. It simply brushes away the fifth and complication that has gathered on top of something so simple and pure. The mastery of love is written as though it speaks directly to you. As though the words you read were written just to connect to every moment of love you have experienced. The words of wisdom don't speak directly about romantic relationships but rather love as a whole; perhaps that is where is gains it's magic. As human beings, we search for answers to all of our problem, because of course that would be easy. This book doesn't answer all of the questions, but rather is like an old friend reminding us of something we've forgotten. This isn't the typical relationship book about the therapy you and your love must go through but rather what we need to stop putting ourselves through. The mastery of Love may seem repetitive however as we read on it becomes apparent as to why. Our brain likes to make connections to something it is sure of, for then the connection is justified. In the style of Ruiz we see the same idea again and again but we connect with is so well because it flourishes into something greater, just as the ideas in our head. The experience you will have while reading this book will be personal, eye opening, maybe emotional, but definitely worth it. In the end you may ask, so can we really master love?

Well written and well liked my 15-year-old niece wanted this book as she liked the story.