Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Revised and Updated) Paperback – October 25, 2022

I have to say this book has really helped me with raising my grandson and son who have ADHD. Made me realize what an enabler I was with my older son who has many issues.

I loved and appreciated the entire book. But the most useful part is the list of codependent characteristics. Because with such detail it really allowed me to pinpoint the where these issues showed up in the past and unpack the origins and do some deeper understanding and healing as well as now being super aware currently in the present when these behaviors are showing up so that I can take responsibility unpack some more and do some more healing and taking agency overy life. Great book, well written easy to understand and apply. And very encouraging as to the possibilities of healing. As long as you do the work of course.

My best friend gave me her copy years ago when I needed change badly. It changed my whole perspective. I’ve since given that copy on to someone else and then continued to purchase this book many times to gift whenever someone needs it. This book is truly a life changer if you’re receptive to understanding why you’ve been stuck in the same pattern.

This book was highly recommended to me and I'm so glad I listened and read it. I would have never called myself codependent but this book lays it all out in a different way than I expected and the tools / questions really helped me consider things and work on things for my life. Highly recommend!

Very good book I’ve never finished it, but it’s been slightly helpful and it’s well written

My therapist referred this to me and I'm not that much of a reader so I went and got the audio version first and I enjoyed it too much that I bought it just to have the physical copy this book made me look and things so much different and help me understand my codependency more.

At the time I bought this book people kept encouraging me to read it because I was in a four year relationship with a heroin user who was physically emotionally verbally abusive. He cheated often and refused to let me go. And I refuse to let him go. I wasn’t sure why I felt I needed his love and I needed him to be around me and I needed to control him, but I did. And that just contributed to my feelings of shame. I wanted to die. I often thought about suicide. I read chapter one and two and for the first time I was able to get the strength to leave him. It took about a month and a half but I left him and that was three years ago. I have not gone back to him. But surprisingly two months after I left him he got into recovery. I was already in recovery for a couple of years. I now have 5 1/2 years clean. He now has 2 1/2 years clean. We’re not necessarily friends because he still has some of the same behaviors but the most important part is I have moved on. I’m still dealing with all of my grief and healing and trauma that happened long before him. But this book showed me how to focus on myself. I finally got my credit together. I finally moved out of low-cost housing. I finally got a job Making a lot of money like I always wanted to. And I finally purchased a preparatory course for the LSAT because I plan on going to law school. Buy this book and read it!!!

This is great for anyone who is possibly codependent, lots of examples in here on how one can be and what you can do to get away from doing it in an unhealthy way